It might sound like a paradox, but sometimes what turns us on the most… is knowing we’re turning someone else on! If you’ve ever felt especially aroused knowing someone got excited just by smelling your used panties or hearing your voice during an erotic video call, you’re not crazy. In fact, it’s completely normal — and there’s science behind it.
The pleasure of being desired
Our brains are wired to respond to social recognition. When someone desires you — whether it’s because of a sexy photo, a whispered fantasy, or even just imagining something about you — your brain gets a hit of dopamine, the pleasure neurotransmitter.
The idea that someone is getting off to your panties, your voice notes, or even a cheeky conversation in a naughty chat, can boost your sexual confidence and sense of power. It’s like telling your body: “Hey, I’m desirable!”
What if the fetish is the power itself?
This is where something called “inverted arousal” comes in — the turn-on doesn’t come from what you see or do, but from imagining how your presence affects the other person. Many people who sell used underwear or do sexual video calls say the most exciting part isn’t the act itself, but seeing the other person’s reaction.
This type of arousal also links to fetishes like gooning, where someone gets so deep into pleasure that they enter a kind of hypnotic trance. And if you’re the one causing that state? That’s some serious erotic power.
You don’t need to show everything to feel everything
One of the most beautiful things about this kind of turn-on is that it doesn’t require full nudity or exhibitionism — unless you want it to. You can feel incredibly powerful just selling a used thong without ever showing your face, or doing a steamy video call while fully dressed. It’s more mental than visual. And that makes it even more intense.
The desire is yours too
At Secret Panties, many women discover that the real thrill is in knowing they’re desired — without needing to do anything they’re not comfortable with. If it excites you to know someone’s saving your thong pic, or can’t stop thinking about you after smelling something you wore… you might be tapping into a deeply powerful side of your sexuality.
Want to explore that kind of pleasure without shame?
Discover how other women like you are doing it at Secret Panties. Here, desire isn’t hidden — it’s celebrated.
